As a mommy, it is all too easy to spend every ounce of our time and energy raising our kids because that is what a good mama does. We tell ourselves that this is what we must do and that its expected of us as good mothers. The problem is that we tend to lose ourselves, our identity, in being a mother. We no longer laugh the way we used to, we smile less, and depending on how long you’ve been wearing those yoga pants, you might smell a little different, too! We neglect ourselves by not taking any “me time.”
Some of you are probably nodding in agreement and some of you are probably thinking, “no, not me!”
The truth test comes with the answer to one question: Outside of being a mother or a wife, who are you? Does the woman you used to be even exist anymore or has she been devoured by spit-up stained t-shirts and ponytail holders?
If you had an entire day to do whatever you wanted, by yourself, what would you do? Would you be okay with being away from the kids for a day or would your $49 massage be ruined by guilty feelings and thoughts rambling on about how you’re not sure the sitter or your husband can handle the kids that long?
I’ve been there and I am still guilty of unnecessary worrying whenever I try to relax away from the house. I can’t enjoy a massage, a haircut, a pedicure or even a quick trip to Target all alone without thinking the worst is going to happen without me to guard against it. You’re pretty darned super, but you’re not superwoman, so ditch the anxiety and have a glass of wine, woman! Reeeeelaaaaaaaaxxxxxxxx!
If you’re like me, you can’t leave the house for whatever reason, at least not regularly. It could be a lack of childcare or lack of funds, so I have an alternative: take a bath! That’s right! Not a “you stink” kind of bath, but a “dim the lights and just pretend its a hot tub” kind of bath. If you can’t afford those fancy schmancy bath salts, then I have just the solution for you and its suuuuuper easy!
Homemade Bath Salts:
- 1 baby food jar or small glass jar
- Plain epsom salt (about 1/4-1/2 cup)
- a few drops of essential oils (5-10 drops total): I use lavender and a blend called Peace & Calming (Young Living).
Add the salts to the jar and then drop the oils onto the salts. Roll or shake the jar to mix and let it sit for at least an hour; I like to do this during the day so its ready to grab and dump into the bath at a moment’s notice after the kids in bed for the evening.
Next, turn on some music, grab a glass of wine and a good book and just breathe.
Try to spend about 20 minutes in the bath because it’s actually good for you. Epsom salts detoxify your body and are a good source of magnesium, but if you spend more than 20 minutes in the bath, you’ll start to re-absorb the toxins you’ve already let off.
Enjoy! Remember to take good care of yourself because if you don’t, who will take care of your family?