What No One Tells You About Being a SAHM | Eatin’ Cheap

Omigosh! My ebook is officially listed on Amazon and it’s available for pre-order! The release date is February 1st and it’s only $3.99.  I can’t believe I am actually tempted to download my own book! *Squee!*


Okay, before I have a mini coronary, let me back the excitement train up……Sorry for the verbal vomit; I’ve since turned on The Cure Radio station on iHeartRadio and I have regained my composure (for the moment).

Two and a half years ago my husband and I made the decision that I should quit my corporate job to stay home with the two children we now had together. As miserable as I was in the corporate world, I was glad to do so and agreed without a further thought.  We were taking over a salon (he’s a hair stylist) and there was no doubt that it could fail because we are both so talented in what we do (his experience with hair and beauty, mine with marketing, management and photography).

According to Bloomberg, 8 out of 10 entrepreneurs who start businesses fail within the first 18 months. A whopping 80% crash and burn. We burned. With the dawn of the new year, we closed our little salon venture; we kept the doors open for 25 agonizing months.

We failed because we didn’t have enough capital, our target stylists had already rented independant suites and the bright shiney re-development of the area surrounding our salon didn’t happen.  It wasn’t a lack of customers walking in the door. The city failed us and we were not a fit for the market surrounding us because we planned for what was supposed to happen, not what was already there.

Most people think that salon owners are rolling in the dough and it couldn’t be farther from the truth. We struggled from day one and it only got harder as days wore on.  Living from paycheck to paycheck would have been a blessing because we were literally living from day to day, wondering if we would have a roof over our head in the morning and if we would be able to eat the next meal.

I started shopping cheap.  Like spaghetti, ramen noodles or mac n cheese every night kind of cheap and we paid for it with our health.  We had to do something to eat better; there HAD to be some other way.

I started budgeting $50/week for groceries because that’s all we could afford. I spent more on groceries than that when I was single, but now I had to feed four hungry mouths with that meager budget!  I had to scour the sale ads for multiple stores to find the best deals. I collected every coupon I could get my hands on and started compiling my list of secrets to make that $50 stretch until the next week. I made meal plans and I researched the cheapest meals and recipes out there to find some variation for our table because eating the same dishes every week gets to be boring; meals can’t be boring when you have a preschooler and a toddler!!!

When I started telling people what I was doing, their eyes lit up, especially when they could see it was working! So, I did what any self-respecting mama would do (no, not stripping!), I wrote a book.  The book contains the easy to replicate strategy, shopping list printables, a 1-week meal plan and recipes for each of the meals contained within the plan.  I will be releasing follow up meal plans to help supplement the rest of the month/year and keep you within budget.

So, my point about what no one tells you about being a SAHM:

  • While it’s amazing rewarding and fulfilling to my heart, sometimes mommy just needs a time out!
  • When I do finally get some time to myself, I immediately miss the craziness I wanted a time out from.
  • When away from my kids for any period of time, I feel like I left a limb at home, like I am functioning as an amputee. I feel awkward and can’t trump the feeling that something is missing. Just feels weird.
  • No one wants to hire you after a long period of self-employment or being a SAHM because of the unverifiable “employment” even though you’ve probably never worked harder in your life. Makes me want to smack someone!  Yet, I am thankful for the opportunity to continue staying home with the kids.  Fact is, most of us can’t afford to stay home, but we do it of love.  If there’s anything the last few years have proven to me, its that you really can live in love (and just a little bit of money).

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